One day everything’s fine, and the next, you’re shocked by a lay-off, or you’re filing for divorce, or you’re mourning the loss of a loved one.
When your world is falling apart, you may be feeling depressed, angry, out-of-control, or even hopeless. Please know that you are not alone in these feelings. These valleys are part of the experience of life.
And while I can’t protect you from the inevitable periods of crisis, I can provide a few tips for finding peace when your world is falling apart.
Pay Extra Attention To Your Health
When life as you know it is collapsing around you, it’s all too easy to neglect your physical health. Because, really, who cares about meal prep at a time like this?
But this is also when you’re most vulnerable. Your emotional state might already be negatively impacting your sleep, your posture, and your hormone levels. So now is the time to pay more attention than usual to your physical health.
You might not be motivated to focus on your health right now. But there is power in taking control of your health, especially when other areas of your life are feeling out-of-control.
So try to plan out some healthy meals full of protein, fruits, and veggies this week. And schedule a little “me time” to enjoy some meditative yoga or channel your frustration into a kickboxing workout.
Harvard Health recently found that you can combat depression with as little as 15 minutes of exercise per day. Simply moving your body boosts feel-good hormones to lift your mood instantly.
Get Comfortable Leaning On People
Are you shutting everyone out while you try to get yourself through this crisis? That’s what I tend to do when life gets tough. I don’t want to suck my nearest and dearest into my drama. So I go MIA to deal with my issues on my own. And if we’re being completely honest, that never actually helps.
Not only do I deny myself the light that my loved ones bring to my life (which is especially important when life is going wrong), but I’m also burdening them with worry when I become uncommunicative.
They would rather hear me vent about my circumstances than have to wonder if I’m ok.
Your friends and family want to support you during your crisis. So let them! Accept their help, knowing that you'll be able to repay the favor for them one day.
Be Patient With Yourself
Let’s face it: some days it takes all your energy just to get out of bed. Even showering feels like a monumental accomplishment.
And that’s ok!
The journey toward normalcy after your world is shaken comes with natural ups and downs. Grant yourself the grace to take one day at a time. If just getting out of bed is the best you can do today, you’re still doing your best. And doing your best is always an accomplishment that deserves to be acknowledged.
Be patient with yourself and give yourself the time you need to heal. Know that a single bad day (or even two or three) doesn’t mean you’re stuck. It’s just a normal part of the road to recovery.
And you will recover.
Your life may never be the same as it once was but you will adapt and grow and learn to appreciate this new life. No matter how dark things may seem in the moment, better days are coming. Keep pressing forward, and your world will start to rebuild.
Michelle Clardie teaches #HappyMoneyManagement to women who want to make saving and investing more fun. She recently traded in her corporate career to move abroad and blog full-time. Check her out at savingsandsangria.com.